Honesty is a cornerstone of good character. Dishonesty creates drama.

And feminine women do not do drama.

Take ownership of your life and your relationships. These are your choice. To blame anyone else for either of these choices is weak, unattractive, and patently dishonest.

Exhibiting authenticity and sound character weeds out unsuitable mates before you have to deal with them. You are constantly non-verbally communicating your standards to everyone. This allows a man to determine whether or not to approach you based on his self-assessment. 

Verbally expressing your expectations with grace and honesty effectively communicates that you are a feminine woman who is not to be trifled with. You can do this without drama, direct criticism, or attitude. This allows him to eliminate himself, if necessary, without negativity on your part.

“I am so impressed with a man who furthers (or completes, etc.) his education.”

“I expect honesty and I’m not interested in being is a relationship with anyone who is dishonest.”

“I don’t take adult men who still live at home with their mothers seriously.”

This shows honesty, true strength, and vulnerability.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The sooner you put it out there, the better. Begin as a feminine woman because there is no rewind.

You generally do not go from hook-up to housewife.

*This does not work with materialism. It is a contradiction to lead with character but value status symbols. You will look like a gold digger (unfeminine).