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When a person finds themselves predisposed to complaining about how little they are regarded by others, let them reflect how little they have contributed to the happiness of others. – Samuel Johnson

When Did You Last

Realize that if you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it. – Anthony J. D’Angelo

Focus on You

When you consistently maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll become known as a problem-solver rather than a complainer. People avoid complainers. They seek out problem-solvers. – Joseph Sommerville

Be the Change

The greatest wealth is health. – Virgil

Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.  – World Health Organization, 1948

If you have health, you probably will be happy, and if you have health and happiness, you have all the wealth you need, even if it is not all you want.  – Elbert Hubbard

In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments – there are consequences. – Robert G. Ingersoll

Baggage is ineffective at home.

Ignorance, infallibility, insecurity and their ilk are known losers.

Baggage does not travel well.

Taken into the realm of the unfamiliar, to the world stage . . . EPIC FAILURE.

Natural consequence.

To be expected.

Reality.

There are but two choices:

  1. Keep the baggage –> remain loyal to the familiar or take it on the road and become a spectacle for all the world to see.
  2. Lose the baggage –> exercise the freedom to venture out, experience the world and enjoy all of its bounty.

Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters. – Albert Einstein

Harmony makes small things grow, lack of it makes great things decay. – Sallust

Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things . . . I am tempted to think . . . there are no little things . . . – Bruce Barton

Grace has been defined as the outward expression of the inward harmony of the soul.  – William Hazlitt

virtue (n) an example of moral goodness or excellence.

harmony (n) a virtue; agreement in action, opinion, feeling, etc.; accord; a pleasing combination of parts in a whole; compatibility

Be grateful for and celebrate the beauty in all things because beauty is everywhere; and ignore all limitations and boundaries wherever they are found, because they are illusion. – David F. Sanders

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. – Gandhi

In our interactions with others, gentleness, kindness, and respect are the source of harmony. – Buddha

This world is a big and beautiful place.

If you are going to paint yourself into a corner, make sure that it is to your benefit.

Otherwise, you are setting yourself up as a victim and limiting your access to the bounty.

I argue that white Americans should be called European-Americans if I have to subject myself to being called African-American. I prefer just American, but Black will do in the interim. I find African-American to be offensive because I have no ties to Africa. I live and breathe America. African-American implies that I immigrated from Africa to America.

I’ve investigated and most white people that I know have much closer relations to Europe than I do to Africa (which makes me more American, no?). A grandfather from Italy, a great-uncle from Germany. For my family ties to be traced back to Africa, you would literally have to go back more than 10 generations. I actually have closer ties to Ireland than Africa. – Christiana B

Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. – Miguel Angel Ruiz

If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim. – Richard Bach

Accept reality. It is no one else’s responsibility to rescue you. And no one is going to do it.

Take responsibility for yourself and your children. Pointing, blaming, and hating others does not change your situation. Besides, what you think upon grows.

Don’t discriminate. People are people. Seek a like-mind, knowledge, and truth in whomever you find them.

Do for self and

Do it now.

Your life is what you make it.

for Sheree

The Miller, His Son, and Their Ass

A MILLER and his son were driving their Ass to a neighboring fair to sell him.

They had not gone far when they met with a troop of women collected round a well, talking and laughing. “Look there,” cried one of them, “did you ever see such fellows, to be trudging along the road on foot when they might ride?’ The old man hearing this, quickly made his son mount the Ass, and continued to walk along merrily by his side.

Presently they came up to a group of old men in earnest debate. “There,” said one of them, “it proves what I was a-saying. What respect is shown to old age in these days? Do you see that idle lad riding while his old father has to walk? Get down, you young scapegrace, and let the old man rest his weary limbs.” Upon this the old man made his son dismount, and got up himself.

In this manner they had not proceeded far when they met a company of women and children: “Why, you lazy old fellow,” cried several tongues at once, “how can you ride upon the beast, while that poor little lad there can hardly keep pace by the side of you?’ The good-natured Miller immediately took up his son behind him.

They had now almost reached the town. “Pray, honest friend,” said a citizen, “is that Ass your own?’ “Yes,” replied the old man. “O, one would not have thought so,” said the other, “by the way you load him. Why, you two fellows are better able to carry the poor beast than he you.” “Anything to please you,” said the old man; “we can but try.”

So, alighting with his son, they tied the legs of the Ass together and with the help of a pole endeavored to carry him on their shoulders over a bridge near the entrance to the town. This entertaining sight brought the people in crowds to laugh at it, till the Ass, not liking the noise nor the strange handling that he was subject to, broke the cords that bound him and, tumbling off the pole, fell into the river.

Upon this, the old man, vexed and ashamed, made the best of his way home again, convinced that by endeavoring to please everybody he had pleased nobody, and lost his Ass in the bargain.

Moral: Try to please all and you will please none.

When you know your own voice and use it, you will put people off even if that is truly not your intent.

You must choose. Do you prefer to speak your truth or to make lots of friends?

Hint: speaking your truth will garner you like-minded friends. These are diamonds and absolutely the best kind 🙂


This problem was due to human error. However, the cause is not the point. 

Charity is a gift. A generous act. Something to be thankful for.

It is not something to be expected or depended on. Nor is it owed.

A sense of entitlement to charity is a precarious lifestyle choice.

Especially in this economy.

Again, stupid (or burying your head in the sand) won’t save you. And neither will a financially destitute government. – me, comment on Do the Work

From a solid base, formulate and live a viable plan.

And always have a plan B.

Given current circumstances, I’d suggest a plan C and D.

Do you bring sunshine, light, and grace to others?

Or

Do people hate to see you coming?

Being happy and positive 100% of the time is unrealistic. But is it really anyone’s business that you’re not having a great day?

Especially when that is not a good look.

Being pleasant does not require bending over backward for non-reciprocating others, dismissing slights or outright personal attacks, or defending poor choices or wrong doing. In fact, each of these examples is a blatant show of weakness.

A pleasant demeanor, at the very least, does require that you do nothing to negatively affect others simply by having been in your presence.

At its best, a pleasant demeanor lifts the spirits of those around you.

What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable. – Joseph Addison