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Providers and protectors are scarce in a dearth of genuinely feminine women.

In fact, they abandon ship pretty quickly.

Genuine masculinity does not thrive in the absence of genuine femininity.

Why would it?

Don’t expect it.

There is nothing to complain about.

Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters. – Albert Einstein

Harmony makes small things grow, lack of it makes great things decay. – Sallust

Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things . . . I am tempted to think . . . there are no little things . . . – Bruce Barton

John 8:32

And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

if it doesn’t set well,
declare it
dismiss it,
and add it to your
colossal tower of baggage . . .
which has been rendered invisible

Do not confuse baggage with luggage.

Luggage travels well.

Baggage does not.

a bill of goods?

definition: an attempt to persuade someone to accept something untrue or undesirable; lie; deception; misrepresentation; deceit.

Do you believe any of the following?

Poor choices, outright mistakes or failures, regardless of outcome, are to be excused, never admitted to, or used to serve as a warning to others including “loved” ones.

Mistakes, failure, or lack are badges of honor to be worn in public with pride.

Those of demonstrated lack of character are entitled to relationship with or the benefits of those of demonstrated character.

Perfect worlds, fairy tales, have-not subculture, or counterculture is culture and must be subscribed to when not to your benefit.

Level of expectation (over inflated, unrealistic, or low) does not determine the outcome.

If you’ve answered yes to any of these, you have been sold a bill of goods.

Take heart.

Those who are less than will stay the course.

Those who are more will make a course correction.

Happy trails

This world is a big and beautiful place.

If you are going to paint yourself into a corner, make sure that it is to your benefit.

Otherwise, you are setting yourself up as a victim and limiting your access to the bounty.

I argue that white Americans should be called European-Americans if I have to subject myself to being called African-American. I prefer just American, but Black will do in the interim. I find African-American to be offensive because I have no ties to Africa. I live and breathe America. African-American implies that I immigrated from Africa to America.

I’ve investigated and most white people that I know have much closer relations to Europe than I do to Africa (which makes me more American, no?). A grandfather from Italy, a great-uncle from Germany. For my family ties to be traced back to Africa, you would literally have to go back more than 10 generations. I actually have closer ties to Ireland than Africa. – Christiana B

Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. – Miguel Angel Ruiz

If it’s never our fault, we can’t take responsibility for it. If we can’t take responsibility for it, we’ll always be its victim. – Richard Bach

Accept reality. It is no one else’s responsibility to rescue you. And no one is going to do it.

Take responsibility for yourself and your children. Pointing, blaming, and hating others does not change your situation. Besides, what you think upon grows.

Don’t discriminate. People are people. Seek a like-mind, knowledge, and truth in whomever you find them.

Do for self and

Do it now.

Your life is what you make it.


1. an attractive appearance and

2. a friendly demeanor

are key to being approached


If, at a very basic level, a man can determine whether or not he wants to move forward based on her hair, skin, and weight

for Sheree

The Miller, His Son, and Their Ass

A MILLER and his son were driving their Ass to a neighboring fair to sell him.

They had not gone far when they met with a troop of women collected round a well, talking and laughing. “Look there,” cried one of them, “did you ever see such fellows, to be trudging along the road on foot when they might ride?’ The old man hearing this, quickly made his son mount the Ass, and continued to walk along merrily by his side.

Presently they came up to a group of old men in earnest debate. “There,” said one of them, “it proves what I was a-saying. What respect is shown to old age in these days? Do you see that idle lad riding while his old father has to walk? Get down, you young scapegrace, and let the old man rest his weary limbs.” Upon this the old man made his son dismount, and got up himself.

In this manner they had not proceeded far when they met a company of women and children: “Why, you lazy old fellow,” cried several tongues at once, “how can you ride upon the beast, while that poor little lad there can hardly keep pace by the side of you?’ The good-natured Miller immediately took up his son behind him.

They had now almost reached the town. “Pray, honest friend,” said a citizen, “is that Ass your own?’ “Yes,” replied the old man. “O, one would not have thought so,” said the other, “by the way you load him. Why, you two fellows are better able to carry the poor beast than he you.” “Anything to please you,” said the old man; “we can but try.”

So, alighting with his son, they tied the legs of the Ass together and with the help of a pole endeavored to carry him on their shoulders over a bridge near the entrance to the town. This entertaining sight brought the people in crowds to laugh at it, till the Ass, not liking the noise nor the strange handling that he was subject to, broke the cords that bound him and, tumbling off the pole, fell into the river.

Upon this, the old man, vexed and ashamed, made the best of his way home again, convinced that by endeavoring to please everybody he had pleased nobody, and lost his Ass in the bargain.

Moral: Try to please all and you will please none.

When you know your own voice and use it, you will put people off even if that is truly not your intent.

You must choose. Do you prefer to speak your truth or to make lots of friends?

Hint: speaking your truth will garner you like-minded friends. These are diamonds and absolutely the best kind 🙂

For me friendships are important, family is important, and it is a blessing if we can have monetary benefits. That’s wonderful, and I love it. But I have to have the security of people who really care about me, and me about them. I want to be surrounded by people who have integrity. – Camille Cosby

Survival needs are those things that you need to continue living. Survival needs are not based on having what the next person has.

Be clear.

One is need. One is greed.

What is your culture?

If it does not uplift you,

If it provides comfort to those who are less than,

If it encourages, supports, or excuses wrongdoing,

that “culture” does not belong to you.

Be careful of what you accept, excuse, and defend. You transmit culture.

You are a reflection.

To the mirror. To your children. To any and every one who comes in contact with you.

Your choices matter.

Aim high.

Pursue excellence.

Be exquisite.

If you desire high quality, you must be high quality.

Neither a degree, the latest fashions, nor perfect etiquette equal high quality.

Focus on your femininity, your character, and your disposition.

Take care.

Your life will perfectly reflect their quality . . . or the lack thereof.

And you never know who’s watching.

(n) one that aids another in achieving an end;

negatively, one who aids another in self-destructive, immature, or wrong behavior by providing support, excuses, or by shielding the person from the consequences of their behavior.

Enabling is often confused with love and/or protection. It is neither. It is weakness.

Enabling may win favor or a reprieve. Unfortunately, it ultimately garners disrespect.

Enabling not only broadcasts



and a lack of character

but also encourages the other person to remain wrong, undeveloped, and thus, insignificant.

No one loves or respects the person who allows him to hang himself.

Select realistic, right standards and stand firm in them.


Be especially careful of what you accept, support, and defend.