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In all things

  1. Honor your people and
  2. Move
  3. Forward

Much of living authentically is knowing who you come from, the good, bad, and the ugly. Trace as much of your family tree as possible. Learn all that you can and share it with your children and the young people in your family. It’s necessary and important.

This information provides firm ground on which to move forward.

“Those who don’t know history are destined to repeat it.” – Edmund Burke

Knowledge is indeed power.

Know Thyself

for Grandma


Sunday is our day to really shine!

Growing up, I remember,

The ladies wore their absolute Sunday best and then topped that off with a hat!

Sunday dinner was a big deal. Sometimes we used the “good china” and fancy silverware, sometimes not. Sometimes we ate in the dining room, sometimes not. But we, the kids, always had to set the table. We also had to practice our formal table manners and be on our best behavior.  We didn’t always eat Sunday dinner at home and often, we had guests.

The meal was a “cook all day” meal . . . usually started before church and left in the oven or the slow cooker during church. Oh, and the best desserts! There was always a freshly baked cake or cobbler (I am so from the south) or a pie . . . someone’s church was bound to have a bake sale. I remember one time having homemade ice cream at my grandparent’s house. Aww, man!

After church and before dinner, I wished that I was wearing my Toughskin jeans rather than a dress and patent leather shoes. It didn’t stop me from playing though. And now that I think of it, that’s when the girls usually played hopscotch and the boys always wanted to play chase . . . hmmmmm.

Our tradition of Sunday dinner is rooted in the practice that allowed the slaves a day of rest on Sunday. Then, as now, sharing a meal is an incredibly bonding event. On Sunday, family, friends, and community take time to gossip, debate, and reconnect. It’s a wonderful thing!

Hopefully the tradition hasn’t disappeared entirely. Still, I don’t personally know of anyone who practices it. In my own best interest, I resolve to bring this back into my life.

I want a day to shine!


Ancestor Veneration

An ancestor, literally defined, is anyone from whom you are descended – a parent, grandparent, great-grandparent, etc. Spiritually, only those relatives who have lived long lives with good character, were respectful, and brought good into the world become ancestors. In any case, ancestors are embedded in your DNA and can be neither forgotten nor denied. By honoring your ancestors, you honor yourself.

Veneration is a practice based on the belief that ancestors remain active members of society and interested the affairs of their living relatives. The concept has existed in almost every known culture and is found in societies with every degree of social, political, and technological complexity.

The goal of practicing veneration is to ensure the ancestors’ continued well-being, to ask for special favors or help, to cultivate kinship values, or simply to maintain relationships with those who have passed on.

By giving offerings, you give energy to your reverence, thanks, or requests and you demonstrate reciprocity for what has already been provided on your behalf.