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ignorance (n) the lack of knowledge, information, or education; the state of being ignorant

Knowledge, Information, and Education

  1. Inability to show consideration of others and a woefully misguided sense of entitlement
  2. Pride in being less than
  3. Public belching, clearing of the throat, spitting, chewing gum, combing or brushing hair, scratching or patting the scalp, nail care, and the adjusting of undergarments
  4. A normal speaking voice which is higher than a conversational level; poor articulation, indiscriminate use of profanity, and speaking when others are speaking
  5. Rare use of please, thank you, excuse me, pardon me, you’re welcome, and have a nice day

stupidity (n) the possessing of knowledge while behaving as if ignorant

Be very mindful of your own behavior and those with whom you associate. Whether you like it or not, you are being watched and judged by everyone that you come into contact with.

Make your choices wisely.

Have a nice day!


White Tie – the most formal mode of dress, worn only after 6pm, appropriate for important balls or cotillions, opera openings, and state dinners, attire of musical conductors and members of orchestra or symphony

  • floor length ball or evening gown
  • shawl, stole, or bolero jacket
  • coordinating closed toe shoes
  • stockings or hose
  • opera-length dress gloves or short gloves if the gown has long sleeves
  • clutch evening purse
  • very best jewelry *no watches
  • conservative makeup
  • updo

Black Tie – appropriate for more formal proms, the opera, galas, and balls

  • conservative cocktail dress, gown or long, formal dress, or evening separates
  • coordinating shoes
  • accessories as appropriate


Semi-Formal – also known as After 5 or Cocktail attire, latitude allowed for personal style and fun, appropriate for proms, the derby, weddings, opening nights, and receptions

  • formal ball skirt with coordinated top, formal dress, short gown, or little black dress *for daytime, a short dress or dressy suit may be appropriate
  • coordinated hat for outdoor events
  • shoes and jewelry as appropriate

Professional – formal work attire, traditionally navy or black, appropriate for work and professional practice

  • business suit with skirt or slacks, tailored dresses *skirt should hit at the knee
  • conservative blouse or shirt, sweater, or turtleneck
  • minimal, small jewelry and accessories

Smart Casual – the bridge between formal work attire and casual work attire, subtle or neutral colors but generally not black or navy, latitude allowed for personal style, appropriate for more important work or church events, academia, presenting or instructing

  • tailored jacket
  • tailored fashion dress, skirt or slacks
  • tailored sweater, turtleneck, or blouse
  • conservative heels or flats as appropriate
  • coordinated, casual jewelry
  • leather accessories

Business Casual – casual work attire, appropriate for work and church events *here codes are very fluid and can vary widely depending on location

  • modest clothing
  • conservative heels or flats
  • complementary rather than distracting jewelry

Casual – appropriate for everyday events (i.e. shopping, hanging out, attending classes) and more dressy events (i.e. dining out, parties or dance clubs)

  • anything within taste and reason as appropriate

Active Wear – the most casual mode of dress, appropriate for physical activity and travel to and from the gym

  • fitness clothing
  • athletic shoes

The Top 5

Left hand in the lap and elbows off the table.

Swallow before drinking or speaking.

Pass rather than reach.

Use please and thank you at every opportunity.

And, when in doubt, watch others.

Service moves from left to right. Dishes are passed from left to right, you are served from your left, and your plate is removed from your right. * The salt and pepper are passed together. **Always taste before seasoning.

Place your napkin in your lap soon after you’re seated, leave it in your chair if you leave the table temporarily, and place it neatly to the left of your plate at the end of the meal.

Break bread rather than cut or bite from a roll or slice. Butter small pieces. *Reserve sopping for meals at home and very informal occasions.

Wait until others are served before you begin your meal.

When eating soup, spoon away from yourself (less chance of dribbling on your clothes). And, cut food one or two pieces at a time unless you’re cutting for a child.

Once a utensil is used, rest it in a plate, saucer, or bowl. If a utensil falls on the floor, leave it and ask for another. When you’ve finished your meal, place your knife and fork side by side in the center of your plate.

Tipping is mandatory. The current rate is 20%. This rate is lowered only if the service is poor.

Bon Apetit!


Eat to your left, drink to your right. Any small dishes to the left of your plate belong to you and any glasses to the right of your plate belong to you.

Use silverware from the outside in. Utensils are set in the same order as course service (i.e. salad or soup first, etc.) See below.

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It’s not truly dead. Unfortunately, some modern women find chivalry demeaning and have been very vocal about it. This has caused the practice to be almost abandoned. It can be reignited. Men like feminine women and a feminine woman appreciates the finer things in life. And she definitely appreciates chivalry.

Historically, chivalry meant knightly virtues such as courtesy, valor, and skill in combat. It was a mark of a man’s character. The same is true now. A man performing acts of chivalry today shows good manners as well as respect for himself and others around him.

Modern chivalry, as it relates to women, can be summed up as genuine action which demonstrates that a man considers a woman to be special. Pay attention and use your intuition. You’ll be able to discern whether or not an act has strings attached. Regardless, say thank you for any deed performed to your benefit.


Your date comes to your door to pick you up for dates. If this is inappropriate or you’re meeting him, when parting he either delivers you to your door or hires a cab for you. This indicates his concern for your safety from your home to his care or as the case may be.

Your date or mate offers you his jacket when it’s chilly or rainy; he holds the umbrella; or, he has you wait while he retrieves the car. These acts show care for your comfort.

Your date introduces you to friends or acquaintances whom he encounters while the two of you are together; he ensures that you are seated before he sits; and he switches his cell phone off while you’re dining. These are examples of basic good manners and they show respect for you.

The man who you’re walking with walks on the outside (the side closest to the street). This protects you from traffic.

A man entering a doorway just ahead of or behind you holds the door open for you. This is courteous and shows good manners.

The man with whom you’re having a conversation takes care to mind his language. This demonstrates intelligence and respect for you, others, and mostly himself.

Just remember that society being what it is these days, men may not automatically do all of these things. If you want to be treated to acts of chivalry, you may have to request it. Take care to be courteous and appreciative when it comes. Because by your own words, deeds, and actions you are continuously teaching others how to treat you.