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Perhaps I can create a feminine version of this

Or even better, this


This problem was due to human error. However, the cause is not the point. 

Charity is a gift. A generous act. Something to be thankful for.

It is not something to be expected or depended on. Nor is it owed.

A sense of entitlement to charity is a precarious lifestyle choice.

Especially in this economy.

Again, stupid (or burying your head in the sand) won’t save you. And neither will a financially destitute government. – me, comment on Do the Work

From a solid base, formulate and live a viable plan.

And always have a plan B.

Given current circumstances, I’d suggest a plan C and D.

She is sending a message to girls everywhere, particularly girls of color who may feel like they don’t have a lot of options, that you can earn your own money, enter a relationship with a man because you want to not because you financially need to, and when he’s shown you he’s deserving, you can give him the privilege of making a lifetime commitment to you and then you will give him the gift of a child. Not only when you both feel ready to do it but when you know you’re both ready to be the best parents you can be. – Keli Goff, Why Policymakers Should Rejoice at News of Beyonce’s Pregnancy

Unless, God forbid, you are raped,

YOU choose who YOU reproduce and when YOU reproduce.

Life is not a fairytale nor does it follow fairy tales.

Reality is what YOU make it.

Given the known consequences, how could anyone intelligently not

Aim high


virtue (n) an example of moral goodness or excellence.

courage (n) a virtue; the quality of mind or spirit to face difficulty in spite of fear or doubt; bravery; the deliberate decision that action is necessary regardless.

Courage is admitting that you’re afraid and facing that fear directly. It’s being strong enough to ask for help and humble enough to accept it.

Courage is standing up for what you believe in without worrying about the opinions of others. It’s following your own heart, living your own life, and settling for nothing less than the best for yourself.

Courage is daring to take a first step, a big leap, or a different path. It’s attempting to do something that no one has done before and all others thought impossible.

Courage is keeping heart in the face of disappointment and looking at defeat not as an end but as a new beginning. It’s believing that things will ultimately get better even as they get worse.

Courage is being responsible for your own actions and admitting your own mistakes without placing blame on others. It’s relying not on others for your success, but on your own skills and efforts.

Courage is refusing to quit even when you’re intimidated by impossibility. It’s choosing a goal, sticking with it, and finding solutions to the problems.

Courage is thinking big, aiming high, and shooting far. It’s taking a dream and doing anything, risking everything, and stopping at nothing to it make it a reality.

by Caroline Kent

virtue (n) an example of moral goodness or excellence.

creativity (n) a virtue; the state or quality of being creative; the ability to transcend existing ideas, rules, patterns, or relationships and produce something new; originality.

create (v) to bring into existence; to produce through original thought, expression or imaginative skill.

Imitation is the sincerest flattery. – Charles Caleb Colton


bite (v) slang to steal or copy rather than to create; indicates lack of original thought and/or skill. Inauthentic.

The merit of originality is not novelty; it is sincerity. – Thomas Carlyle

You can either advance boldly in the direction of your dreams, or retreat fearfully into the safety of the habitual. – Mario Cortes

Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep. Scott Adams

Dare to be unique

SBW = Strong Black Woman

The Mischievous Dog by Aesop

A Dog used to run up quietly to the heels of everyone he met and to bite them without notice. His master suspended a bell about his neck so that the Dog might give notice of his presence wherever he went. Thinking it a mark of distinction, the Dog grew proud of his bell and went tinkling it all over the marketplace. One day an old hound said to him: “Why do you make such an exhibition of yourself? That bell that you carry is not, believe me, any order of merit, but on the contrary a mark of disgrace, a public notice to all men to avoid you as an ill-mannered dog.”

Those who achieve notoriety often mistake it for fame.

The Best of Us

Only as high as I reach can I grow

Only as far as I seek can I go

Only as deep as I look can I see

Only as much as I dream can I be.

– Karen Ravn



And, for the more ambitious,

How to Start a Side Hustle: A New Free Video Training Series
by Rosetta of

  1. Try not to take anything personally when it comes to dating. Someone always has their own deal going on. We waste all this time trying to figure a dude out when really their motivations are beyond our grasp and often have absolutely nothing to with us at all.
  2. Don’t chase after a guy who has rejected you. Not even as a friend. Move on.
  3. Protect yourself and protect your heart, because no one else is going to.
  4. There’s no such thing as soul mates. There’s just guys who are well suited for you and guys who are not. If you stop looking for “the one” you will be open to “the one that’s good for you.”
  5. Let the guy pursue you … at least for a while. They enjoy that. Don’t spoil their fun.

from 22 Things I Wish I Knew About Dating When I Was 22

On one occasion, the Buddha was invited by the Brahmin Bharadvaja for alms to his house. As invited, the Buddha visited the house of the Brahmin.

Instead of entertaining Him, the Brahmin poured forth a torrent of abuse with the filthiest of words.

The Buddha politely inquired:

“Do visitors come to your house, good Brahmin?”

“Yes,” he replied.

“What do you do when they come?”

“Oh, we prepare a sumptuous feast.”

“What do you if they refuse to receive the meal?”

“Why, we gladly partake of them ourselves.”

“Well, good Brahmin, you have invited me for alms and entertained me with abuse which I decline to accept. So now it belongs to you.”

You make things worse
when you flare up
at someone who’s angry.
Whoever doesn’t flare up
at someone who’s angry
wins a battle
hard to win.
– Buddha, Akkosa Sutta

Beyond all doubt,

Arguing with a fool proves there are two. – Doris M. Smith

Never argue with a fool – they will drag you down to their level, then beat you with experience. – unknown

Arguing with a fool + being out argued by said fool = an Epic Fail.

The best way to convince a fool that he is wrong is to let him have his way. – Josh Billings

If you respect neither the person nor his intelligence, what do you care what he thinks?

Your every word, deed, and action reveals your character.

And, there is not enough feminine attire, graceful deportment, or proper etiquette in the world to cover who you truly are.

Choose your lane wisely.